DATING VIOLENCE

WARNING SIGNS

The following are warning signs of a potentially harmful partner:

• Jealous (of friends, family, coworkers or others who take time away from the relationship)

• Controlling (of you and your behaviors)

• Very possessive

• Isolation (from support systems; friends & family)

• Verbally abusive

• Sexually demanding

• Violent temper
(towards you or others)

• Hypersensitivity (acutely upset by simple responsibilities or daily living experiences)

• Abusive home life

• Rapidly changing moods

• Alcohol or drug use

SUGGESTIONS FOR PARENTS

Do they feel nervous around his/her partner?
Do they have to be careful to control their behavior to avoid the partner’s anger, are they scared of disagreeing? Does their partner criticize or humiliatethem in front of others? Is their partner always checking up on them, does their partner ask them to change? Does jealousy stop them from seeing friends or family? Has the partner ever threatened them? Does the partner say they will kill themselves if they breakup? Does the partner make excuses for abusive behavior? What to do: approach your teen with, “What qualities have drawn you to this person?” This might spark an internal conversation within your teen to re-evaluate their relationship.

If you suspect abuse, try approaching your teen with, “I’m worried about you.” Take the abuse seriously, focus on their safety, help them recognize what abuse is, listen, offer help to protect and encourage counseling.
Questions uou can ask include: What can I do to help? How has the partner’s behavior made you feel? How is it affecting you? Create a safety plan.

Crisis line
(502) 581-7222 or (877) 803-7577

For more information:

http://www.mental-health-matters.com/
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